I’ve Been Married For Two Years But No Longer Love My Husband – What Should I Do?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and some change and we met in college … he’s 28 and I’m 20. He treats me how I want to be treated yes I love him for that. But it’s little things that irritate me, like he doesn’t want to take pics with me , we barely go places but that doesn’t bother me as much. But it’s when we do go places, we go half on the bill but he wants me to pay the most, mind you I give him money EVERYTIME he asks but he doesn’t give me anything even if I ask . He wants to make deals like if I give you 40 you have to give me back 50 even thou I gave him 85 and never asked for a dime back . Two days ago we we’re laying at his house and his ex was calling him back even though he claims they don’t talk no more so he doesn’t know Why she’s calling him , maybe she was drunk . I don’t believe that AT ALL …. I forgot to mention we are in a long distance relationship.
Dear Reader,
It’s completely normal to have some things bother you about a person when you’ve been together for a while. Money is generally something that causes problems in many relationships so if it bothers you about the little game he plays when giving more money back than borrowed then I believe you should be honest and just tell him. Tell him honestly that you simply don’t like it. Also his ex calling him could just be a fluke so don’t think too much into it. Since long distance relationships take a lot more effort and understanding then just give yourself more time as you did mention that he treats you well. I truly believe that if someone treats you well then they really do care for you. Don’t let misunderstandings come in the way of your relationship. xoxo Paarull
Paarull,
I’ve been married for two years but I’m no longer in love with my husband. Whenever I’m out, I’m always looking at other men and I feel bad about this but I just can’t help it. I feel my marriage is on the rocks and I don’t know what to do!
Dear Reader,
It’s sometimes quite normal to feel this way. I get a lot of similar questions from other readers about the same sort of dilemma. As someone once told me that “ as long as we are living, we will develop feelings for other people” because this is human nature. Since you are in a marriage, I would say to bring some spark into your relationship by surprising each other, or perhaps spending some time apart and see how you feel without him. I guarantee that if you love this person, you will miss him when you spend time apart. Relationships are work darling and we constantly have to work on them. Try to look for the man in him that you fell in love with. Keep me posted! xoxo Paarull
Paarull,
I’m no longer interested in sleeping with my husband. He’s a very nice man and my prince charming and he swept me off my feet 5 years ago but I feel no longer physically attracted to him. I feel gross when he touches me and I cannot stand sleeping in the same bed with him anymore. I feel that I should tell him as I’m living a lie and I just want to end this right here and move on…. What should I do?
Dear Reader,
Well this is a complicated situation and so my advice to you would be to “Yes tell him!” because it’s also not fair to him. I must warn you to be very careful with this as men don’t take such comments lightly and it really bothers their ego. Tell him yourself first and if need be then please seek professional help as it may not be so easy. We have to be very careful when dealing with other’s emotions. He may not take this in a very positive manner as he doesn’t have any idea how you feel about this. Just be gentle darling and keep me posted. xoxo Paarull
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