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By Paarull Bakshi
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I met a nice man at an event last week and he narrated his story to me which I thought I would share with you all. Please note that this is in his own words and no exaggeration has been implied.
I must tell you that I’ve been working very hard all of my life and two years ago when I met my now wife, I fell in love with her instantly! She was everything I ever wanted. I proposed to her 8 months later and now we’ve been married for more than a year and things have definitely changed! Like I said, I worked very hard so I made a lot of money and was hoping to retire at the age of 40, I’m now 37 and I can’t do so anymore because my wife and the love of my life has left me hundreds of thousands dollars in debt. My wife is a shopaholic and her addiction to buying things started right after we got married, it started with a $20,000 ring then to a bigger house like a mansion because she didn’t like my old place and said it was too small. These things were still okay but then this led onto her asking for credit cards and trips and shopping sprees! Every time I would say no or refuse, she would get very upset and threatened to leave me. My savings of over 2 million dollars have been drained and I don’t really know what to do anymore with this relationship as this is all I can do for her. I have to get out of this relationship as I’ve let this go on far too long. I’m on the verge of losing my business and I don’t know where to turn anymore. My family isn’t aware of all that has been going on as I was too embarrassed to tell them but they did comment about all the fancy things we were buying.
To top it all of, her attitude towards me is not the same as it used to be, I find her constantly criticizing me about my clothes, the way I look, etc. etc. She never wants to spend any time with me either. I feel very stuck, used, exploited by this so called marriage. I didn’t picture it to be like this. I worked hard for every dollar I had made but now I’m in debt of buying things I didn’t need. I feel that if I go for a divorce, I may end up spending even more money and I just simply cannot afford to do that!
I wanted to put this question forward to all of you and want to hear what your opinions are on what this man should do! Should he divorce her or try to make things work? What would you all do if you were in this situation?
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XOXO Paarull
