I Like My Current Boyfriend But Keep Looking At Other Options – Is That Wrong?

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By Paarull Bakshi

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Dear Paarull,

I have so much love for this one man but he’s always on my case about doing things his way and he gets upset when things don’t go his way. I feel like I’m putting a lot of time into this relationship then he is and I’m just not liking this. I do like him but at the same time, I don’t have the freedom that I would like, I almost feel like I should just get rid of this relationship and be done with it. What do you suggest?

Well, in my opinion, relationships are meant for two people to be together and work things out their way. It sounds to me that you’ve got a case of a control freak on your case that’s all and this is just a personality thing and nothing to do with the relationship. If he’s like that with other people then it’s just a personality issue and I would just work around that if you still really love him XOXO Paarull


I’m in a dilemma about a current boyfriend. I really do like him and everything is great but I still keep looking at other options. Is this wrong? Why do I feel this way? Maybe he’s not the one then?

It is perfectly normal to feel this way and this is just a part of our nature as humans. We never seem to be content! But when in a relationship and you have a wandering eye then I would assume that he’s probably not “your ideal guy” as we all have an image of a person that we would like to be with in our minds. I would give this relationship some time and see how you feel and if your feelings are still the same then it may be time you consider other options … XOXO Paarull

Dear Paarull,

My husband and I have been married for six years and our life is somewhat a little boring I must say. All we ever do is that we go out and hang out with his extended family and by extended I mean a large family. Every weekend there seems to be someone’s birthday or engagement or reception or a wedding. I grew up in a small Indian family and I rarely ever had to attend such parties growing up so I just can’t seem to cope with his huge extended family and their parties. For the first year, it was quite okay but I’m a person with very many goals and I like to socialize with other like-minded people but I barely ever get time to do this now. What should I do?

In my opinion, you should really let your husband know how you feel about this and try to have a balance between this social life. I do understand that sometimes family can become our whole life but it’s good to remember that they are only a part of it. If you’ve got goals that you’d like to accomplish then make sure they stay on top of your priority list. Just having a talk with your husband about this would be my suggestion to you! XOXO Paarull

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