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By Paarull Bakshi
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I got married here from India and I feel betrayed….
This is a question that I get asked often and I’m often hesitant to answer such a question but here is a question received from a reader last week:
I moved here from India five years ago to Surrey, BC and I moved here because my parents decided to get me married here. When I met my husband five years ago, he visited my home in Chandigarh and I really liked him when we first met. He spent many days in Chandigarh and we have a good time hanging out, going to movies, going to restaurants and then I decided that he was the guy I wanted to marry. I told my parents that I liked the match they picked for me. Sadly, this is not true anymore, my life is completely unlike I had imagined. After our wedding in India, we moved here and things were okay for the first week but then later everything turned around for the worst. I found out that he already has a girlfriend here and his parents knew that!!!! He lives with his girlfriend and never spent any time with me when we moved here. I’ve spent the last five years of my life living in his house with his parents who are not so bad I suppose. I mean even though, they betrayed me, I still respect his parents. I suppose I can get a divorce from this supposed husband of mine now that I’m financially better and can support myself well. But what about all my lost time? I could’ve been somewhere else or married to someone else but I had no choice but to first sustain myself and then divorce him. How can humans be like this to someone? What do you think I should do?
Dear reader,
I have nothing but sympathy and support for you as this is something we don’t wish on our worst enemy. I think that what’s done is now done and can’t be undone. The simple thing to do is move my dear and get those divorce papers ready! Although you feel that your time was lost and many things could’ve happened differently but there is nothing that can be done about it now. There are many great men out there who respect and love women. I hope that you find one of those!
XOXO Paarull
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