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Why does infidelity exist?
As I get questions from people day in and day out, a recurring question always is: my so and so cheated and now we have an issue within our relationship, etc. etc. OR my husband isn’t in love with me anymore OR my wife left me for another man. Why is this so? Why are so many people affected by this situation?
Well the answer is simple as it just happens! It’s nothing that we should feel so bad about that we give up living our lives and be miserable for no reason. This is mainly because we either feel betrayed by our partners, lost without them or just simply don’t want to live without them.
Come to think of it, this could be rather absurd and impractical.
The reason people cheat is not because there is something wrong with their partners but it’s because they are somewhere unhappy with themselves or with their own lives. It’s the sense of loneliness that gets to them in the hope of finding something that they are “missing”. But the reality of the situation is that their void can’t really be filled with another person as it’s very much internal. This leads to them not cheating just once but multiple times as the void that they were looking to fill never really gets filled with their spouse and not even with multiple partners. Such is the reality of these ‘cheaters.’
It may or may not be easy to spot a ‘cheater’. Some signs are as follows:
These people are not always but usually interested in more than one person
They are pathological liars
They seldom have sympathetic traits
They are attention seekers – this need for attention leads them to look for attention all the time and this leads to their cheating behavior
There is always a need for a new person in their life
They often live in a false reality
XOXO Paarull
Paarull Bakshi is a consultant at Brand D Media (www.branddmedia.ca). If you have a relationship question that you’d like to share then – Ask Paarull at [email protected]!
