Ask Paarull!
By Paarull JS Bakshi
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Dear Paarull,
Thank you for having this column in the paper, I have a question for you. I have fallen in love with a man who is 15 years older than me and although he is wise, nice, intelligent and all of those things, he does have a character of a bit of a playboy. When you get to meet him, people like him and he is very personable and friendly. There are so many good things about him but I fear that he may have cheating tendencies. I don’t care about our age difference as I think that age is nothing but a number but I just cannot have a man cheat on me! This has happened to me in the past and I don’t have the energy to deal with a thing like this again. The reason I think that he would cheat is because of all the female friends that he has. He is always around women and some seem to like him too. I can just tell by looking at them that they like him. He is a successful business man and loves to party and buy nice things. He is kind also and has helped many people in the past but I hope he somehow changes some of his habits as I’m not too ok with all of this. Should I pursue this relationship any longer or should I leave it?
I think in your case, it seems that there are many things that you like and enjoy about this man but just like any relationship, there are some things that you are just not Ok with and this is completely normal. We can’t possibly like everything about a certain someone. Our past relationships always take a toll on us and we start to think that whatever didn’t work out in the past will still be the case even today and going forward but this is just our perception and not every person is alike. Just because you had to deal with someone cheating in the past does not mean that this will happen to you again. Unless you have proof of him cheating, it doesn’t mean that he is, so I wouldn’t worry about it too much! Just take it one day at a time and see what happens. If you’ve got someone who’s worth it then you shouldn’t let it go. Keep me posted XOXO Paarull
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