Ask Paarull!
By Paarull Bakshi
If you have a question about your relationship that bothers you and you don’t know who to ask, the LINK has you covered. Ask Paarull at [email protected]!
Answer to last week’s column……
From Surrey, BC (Anonymous)
I think he should leave her as she seems to be with him just for the money and this is unfair to him big time! There is no reason to stay with someone that is not being respectful to you.
From VANCOUVER, BC
He should just leave her as it seems that he’s already done enough to be nice! Being nice is one thing but being taken advantage of is just another matter all together!
Harpreet from Surrey, BC
I think that it’s his fault and he should’ve caught this behaviour much earlier so he has only himself to blame for this.
Dimpy from Surrey, BC
Leave her! No point in being in debt!
My opinion…
I think that yes somewhere he should’ve put an end to this much before it got to this situation! This is something very wrong to have happened as getting yourself in debt over what we think is LOVE is just wrong in so many ways. Sometimes we are blinded by some things or people as we just can’t seem to make the right decisions. Sometimes we think that we love that person so much that we would do anything and just about anything to make them happy. Love is not about just giving, it’s a bit of both, giving and receiving! If you see yourself on the giving end all the time then believe me that is not LOVE. Maybe it is in your eyes or from your perspective but not theirs. Mistakes happen and we should just learn from them as there is nothing that we can do about such things. My advice, please tell her how you feel about the situation and if you see no result then please do yourself a favour and move on. Life is short and we must enjoy every moment! XOXO Paarull
Questions from this week:
Paarull, I work at a coffee shop and my fiancé is a high level executive. This is an arranged marriage and my parents lied to him that I’m an accountant. This is not true and I feel very badly about this lie. I want to really tell him the truth but I’m afraid that my relationship will break because of this. What should I do?
I think you should tell him the truth as a relationship built on a lie can only last so long! I’m sure if he’s taken a liking to you then he will understand. Trust me, whatever happens will be for the best!
Paarull, I’ve fallen in love with another girl but I’m already married, what should I do? My wife and I don’t seem to have much in common anymore and have often talked about getting divorced. We are only not divorced because of society. We are from India and we’re scared as to what people might think of us.
I think you should do what’s best for you and not listen to society! Sometimes we think that society may think a certain way, etc. etc. but in reality this might not be the case. People may not be thinking anything at all!
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