Ask Paarull!
By Paarull Bakshi
If you have a question about your relationship that bothers you and you don’t know who to ask, the LINK has you covered. Ask Paarull at [email protected]!
These days with the growing emergence of new social media avenues that keep popping up daily on our smart phone devices and the changing technology, the actual reality of relationships has completely changed.
We have apps on our phones that can instantly connect us with people we’ve never met so basically ‘strangers’. Sometimes we even end up telling these strangers we’ve never met, our entire life story. Maybe because we feel more comfortable with them then with people that we see every day. It’s almost like a confession about things that we feel we may be judged on, our relationship status that is not very “conventional.”
It certainly has become easier to meet new people and this can be helpful but at times hurtful as well. Some marriages are falling apart as the spouses have simply met another person online who they claim “understands them much better!” is everyone just bored ? or do they really not see that their current relationship as ‘worthy enough’ for working it through?
I receive a lot of questions from readers about their “Confessions” about being involved with someone online when they are already married to someone else. In my opinion, we do these things either to look for excitement or we feel lonely and need a person to talk to. When someone else, other than our spouse pays attention to us, we like it and start to think that that is better than what we already have. We forget all the time we spent on our current relationship and are willing to let it go to waste with the click of a button on our keyboards.
To all those in similar dilemmas , I encourage you all to please think about the consequences of what you are doing before you do it. Is that new “fling” really worth leaving the person you have right now? If yes, then please let your partner know and don’t deceive them. If the answer is “No” then make your current relationship works and don’t look around! Sometimes it’s okay to make a friend but make sure you’re aware of your boundaries as a friend.
XOXO Paarull
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