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I received an interesting story last week from a reader who was in quite a dilemma over her love life. She’s a married woman who’s been married for 10 years now but her husband is quite abusive. She has no children and is just unhappy with her marriage situation. Despite all that is going on in her life, she maintains a positive outlook on life and goes on about how grateful she is for all the things that are great about her life. She tells me that she recently met someone who she’s developed feelings for and she doesn’t know how to stop herself. She describes him as being her ‘soul mate’ and even though he’s also married but lonely as she claims it, she says she feels very drawn to him. It’s a feeling like no other and no matter how hard she tries, she wants to meet him and get closer to him and get to know him.
She wonders if this is wrong? Is it wrong in society to fall in love? What if you are bound into a relationship that does you no good? What do you do then? Should you continue to live your life this way or do you deserve to be happy and loved and cared for?
She says that these questions don’t let her sleep in peace at night. She feels ashamed at times but also feels a sense of belonging with this new man in her life. She wonders if it’s okay to be with him even though the society won’t agree. If she asks him to be together and leave his wife, does it make her a bad person? does this relationship only work for them because they are not bound? Bound in terms of marriage or commitment? If she was to leave her husband and marry him (her dream man), how would it be?
Well… instead of me answering this question, I’d like to know what you think? What would you do if you were her?
Email me at [email protected] with your responses,
XOXO Paarull
