There was a time when I felt that there was only me that I could talk to and a time where I just felt alone and lonely, this is when I met someone and my nightmare began…
I was bored one day and tired of being and feeling lonely so one day I finally decided to take charge and look for someone myself and as I searched for avenues, an online dating site seemed like the best option for me.
For the first few weeks , I found no one suitable but then came across an interesting profile that seemed like a good option to me since this person was educated and seemed very nice as I spoke to him. We talked for a few weeks and things seemed good so I finally agreed to meet him even though, this sort of thing is not my cup of tea.
This is the third week and I met him, he seemed nice and very polite but talking to him seemed just so natural and good! He seemed like what I would think as my Mr. Right! Was there even such a thing? I guess so… now that I met this complete stranger, I thought wow, I was missing so much in my life…
10 months later, he proposed to me and I couldn’t be happier, it was as if my dream had come true, little did I know that my nightmare had just begun.
After I got engaged to my so called “Love” , things changed substantially, he became very demanding and stubborn, I had to constantly tell him where I was and if by mistake I didn’t answer his calls, he would become very upset and almost angry. Soon he started to pick me up from work and drop me home as he didn’t want me to travel alone because he didn’t trust me…
I started to feel very scared of him as the way he had become was scary to me. I didn’t know who to tell or who to confide in as now I was officially engaged to him and backing out of this would mean, bringing shame to my family which I could never do…. The cards had been printed and the people had been invited. I was stuck and didn’t see any way out so I made the biggest mistake of my life and married him.
After I got married to him, I was abused , yes physically and emotionally. He started to beat me and just would get upset about each and everything. My life had just changed… I now dreaded the day I met him and wanted to go back in time and erase all this from my memory.
After 2 years of this abusive relationship, I had to let it all go so I filed for divorce and finally got rid of him. I didn’t need this and nor did I deserve it so this is why I shared my story with you. I’m sure that I’m not alone and hopefully this story can help someone else in such a situation.
This is a story, I heard from a lady I met last week, this was written by me but all the feelings and words are hers… Such a horrible experience in a relationship, I wish no one ever has to face such a situation because it’s just impossible to really know who we are actually dating, my advice ladies and gents, please get to know who you are seeing much longer and better before you decide to take the plunge into the marriage world!
XOXO Paarull
Paarull Bakshi is a marketing consultant at Brand D Media (www.branddmedia.ca). If you have a relationship question that you’d like to share then – Ask Paarull at [email protected]! If you are looking for PR, Media Relations. Branding, Event Planning and Digital Marketing Services, Paarull can be reached at [email protected] or 604-318-4913.
